Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Not much to really update on but i have to let out some of my feelings!

Good morning. So ms kenadie is stable and doing well. She is back at home this morning. They ran one test on her tummy and there was not any huge bleeds. They also took an xray and yet again nothing. Her blood values are great. We are just baffeled as to where the bleed is coming from. Her doc is pretty optomistic that is nothing really severe. I am going to try and hang on to those thoughts. :) Oh yeah as for the infection.. we think it has hit the road now. She has an occasional low grade fever but we think it may be due to her tummy issues. The respitory virus.. well it is hanging on for dear freaking life! I swear i am going to protest the freaking thing! lol. She has an appt tomorrow. We shall see if we get to keep that one or they see us today. Wish us luck. Her home health nurse is coming out. Never know how those visits are going to go or if they come now.
So now my feelings. I had a conversation with family member X (name not revealed as some family does read this for updates) and the conversation was in my mind hurtful see if you are with me on this. I was giving an update on ms kenadie and was told you just had to have another baby alisha. You could not stop with the two healthy ones that you have. Then that family member continued to go on to say hurtful things about her G tube and what not. Then in the same day i was questioned about the meds i took before conception, during pregnancy, and all that jazz. Please people. My heart aches right now and i worry about my child. Don't pour salt on the open wounds. I do not tell them how many children they can and can't have. I have been through hell and back with just getting pregnant with my children and keeping them to where i can hold them in my arms. All i am asking for is emotional support that is it. Not a dime from anyone. When one gets pregnant there is no guarantee that child is going to be 100% healthy. It happens. That is life from what i getting to know of. Kenadie just happens to be one really special girl that was given to me for one reason or another. So please if you can't support us in a positive way dont call or anything. We have our own battles that we have to focus on. Sorry i know i got off on this post but my feelings are just really scrambled. I know it is alot to take in for others also but i wish they would realize how much i am going through with my daughter.
My daughter has taught me so much so far. Before her i was/am such a control freak that did not/does not like to ask for inch of help. With her heart condition it has taught me that i can not always control everything and i have to rely on others and try and trust them to take care of her medical well being. I have also had to learn how to ask for help. I am learning I CAN'T do it all. I just wont spread that far. Hmm if only i can spread like my hips did.. you think?! jk!

3 comments:

kcckmom said...

Alisha, honey I am so sorry that you have been going through everything you have with Kenadie recently. And to add to that the insensitivity of someone telling you that it is your own fault. I remember when my son was born, just beating myself up in every imaginable way, wondering what I could have done differently that made his heart form incorrectly. The guilt is all encompassing. The last thing needed is for someone to make the comments you have recently heard! Please know that we are thinking and praying for you and Kenadie. If there is ever anything I can do for you please don't hesitate to ask!!

Jill
calebandkylersmama from iVillage
and a member of MLH-OKC

faithhopelovefaith said...

Glad to hear Ms. Kenadie is hanging in there. Hoping that respiratory virus hits the road soon. As for family member X...YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOUSELF! Yes you heard me! Sorry Alisha, I just had to say that in case he/she does end up reading these comments. I am just shaking with anger over how insensitive those comments were. Please do NOT beat yourself up over this sweetie! You are a strong wonderful loving Mother and I am here to support you 110%! HUGS!

CrazyMom said...

ITA w/the previous poster, Fam Member X...YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF. How dare you tell Ms. Alisha what she should/n't do with her life! She needs your full-on support right now. Ever heard the saying, "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all?" It applies here very nicely.

Alisha, {{HUGS}} sorry you had to deal with that!